My Definition of a Healthy Marriage

I will be the first to admit that I'm no expert but I do have a good bit of experience on the subject of marriage. I know there's a bunch of books claiming to know the sure-fire secrets to the perfect marriage. First of all, that shit doesn't exist! There's no perfect anything, especially marriage. The reason that many of the books and articles that can be read may not work is that YOU are the only one reading them. A wonderful union involves two people so if only half of the union is taking in notes, suggestions and ideas, it's as effective as a bank with an open safe holding your money.

My definition of a healthy marriage is just that. Mine! I can only suggest what makes my marriage happy. One thing I have learned is that communication is key and the glue to hold your matrimonial bond. Then again, communication works for various aspects of life in general. Keeping secrets is for losers because eventually the secrets come out and they're usually accompanied with lies. And that is a different breed of holy crap all together. As much as some don't agree with my methods, I tell my husband everything that comes up that requires his attention. I say this because saying that I tell him everything would be an unrealistic lie. I can't remember, nor do I know everything so how could I tell him everything? Therefore, I tell him all the things related to my needs, wants, our growth and respect for each other. I'm not saying that all literature and counselors are totally wrong. Some have some really good ideas and viewpoints. And in some cases it's good to get a third parties input on some issues. However, I am saying that in life and especially in marriage, you have to find what works for you and your spouse equally before including any further input. You may be starting an issue you didn't have or could resolve without the hassle and better results.

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